Sound familiar? Guess what though – you do! You’re so used to seeing yourself in the same mirror, the same lighting, the same pose in the same spot every day you simply don’t see what others see. Believe it or not, the way you see yourself in the mirror before you leave the house in a morning is just one tiny part of your story; it’s doesn’t show the bigger picture, your personality, your true reflection – it’s the wrong way round.

I find it really interesting that people perceive their mirror images and a photograph of them-selves completely differently.

Answer this, where are you when you look in the mirror? Most likely, it’s in your home. Now answer this, is this the place where you feel most relaxed? Highly likely.

More often than not, a headshot location is somewhere unfamiliar to you. This can be an ob-stacle from the very start and add to the whole alien feeling – that’s bound to make you feel and look a little tense.

Don’t be like Audrey!

I hate to break it to you, but your face isn’t as symmetrical as you think. So when you look in the mirror, you tend to pose the same way. A headshot captures the way others see you and yes, you will look slightly different from different angles, but that’s a good thing, this is how the people around you see you.

Audrey Hepburn famously had her ‘best side’ photographed for nearly every shoot. Next time you see her face pop up, most likely on Pinterest when searching for a new haircut, check it out.

Insisting on having your photograph taken from what you perceive to be your ‘best side’ may not be your greatest idea! The way you feel, pose, hold your head and the use of lighting are all important elements to getting a headshot that reveals your true personality – the person others want to connect and do business with.

Lighting & the brain

Our brains are supercomputers, but their cleverness can also deceive us. As we look in the mirror (yes, I’m back to that now) our brains don’t register the temperature diversity of the lighting – that’s just a posh way of saying the light bits and the dark areas. Our brains auto-matically even out the lighting, so it’s no wonder we become accustomed to seeing our faces in a certain way.

Plus, we tend to focus in on a certain part of our face without realising it. Those who look at us see the whole face, the whole story.

Not to mention the obvious, the mirror shows us a mirrored reflection. Next time you see someone from your household look in the mirror, have a peak at what they see – I bet you’ll say, ‘that doesn’t look like you’. Have fun with that!

Trust what others say

As part of my headshot session I take the time to select the best photographs of you. The ones that capture you, the ones that really DO look like you, the ones where people will in-stantly recognise you and the ones that make you look like the kind of person that would be great to connect and work with.